Suffusing Grief with Love from the media Integration of Being and Experience
A woman seeks understanding about grief and loss in relation to being. Rupert uses the analogy of a screen with images appearing and disappearing to explain that while forms change, the underlying being remains unchanged and shared, allowing grief to be suffused with love rather than despair.
- Duration: 19 minutes and 23 seconds
- Recorded on: Feb 22, 2025
- Event: The Place of Peace – Online Weekend Retreat at Home, 21–23 February
A woman describes struggling with OCD thoughts that feel like a vortex, making it difficult to soften attention. Rupert suggests using an intermediary step – focusing on a benign object like a mantra, breath or poem – rather than attempting to go directly to being, explaining that analysing the source of obsessive thoughts only feeds them.
A man asks about reconciling dream experiences with waking life, particularly regarding profound dream emotions. Rupert explains that while both states operate in subject-object relationship, the waking state is a shared dream while night dreams are private, with consciousness being the common ground of both experiences.
A woman seeks understanding about grief and loss in relation to being. Rupert uses the analogy of a screen with images appearing and disappearing to explain that while forms change, the underlying being remains unchanged and shared, allowing grief to be suffused with love rather than despair.
A woman explores the nature of direct knowing that isn’t a mind process. Rupert explains that ‘being’ and ‘knowing’ are two words for the same reality, with consciousness being the only substance present in all experience.
A man asks about accessing deep sleep consciousness while awake. Rupert clarifies that consciousness remains unchanged through all states, using the analogy of the sun always shining even when not visible from a particular location.
A woman seeks help unravelling apparent evidence that she is the body or localised awareness. Rupert explains that while experience requires a point of view, the knowing with which we know experience is not limited to that localisation.
A woman describes alternating between being and experience, seeking guidance on integration. Rupert encourages finding the right balance for one’s life circumstances while ensuring activities progressively lose their veiling power.
A woman describes feeling liberated through non-dual understanding but questions an infinite regress in being aware of being aware. Rupert explains that consciousness’s self-knowledge is direct, like the sun illuminating itself, not in subject-object relationship.
A man asks whether awareness is changed by experiences. Rupert explains that while consciousness itself remains unchanged, the content of consciousness is enriched by each life’s experiences, like waves donating their energy back to the ocean.
A man seeks clarification about how duality is created. Rupert explains that the faculties of thought and perception create the appearance of subject-object relationship, though this mechanism remains while the belief in separation dissolves.
A woman describes struggling with OCD thoughts that feel like a vortex, making it difficult to soften attention. Rupert suggests using an intermediary step – focusing on a benign object like a mantra, breath or poem – rather than attempting to go directly to being, explaining that analysing the source of obsessive thoughts only feeds them.
A man asks about reconciling dream experiences with waking life, particularly regarding profound dream emotions. Rupert explains that while both states operate in subject-object relationship, the waking state is a shared dream while night dreams are private, with consciousness being the common ground of both experiences.
A woman seeks understanding about grief and loss in relation to being. Rupert uses the analogy of a screen with images appearing and disappearing to explain that while forms change, the underlying being remains unchanged and shared, allowing grief to be suffused with love rather than despair.
A woman explores the nature of direct knowing that isn’t a mind process. Rupert explains that ‘being’ and ‘knowing’ are two words for the same reality, with consciousness being the only substance present in all experience.
A man asks about accessing deep sleep consciousness while awake. Rupert clarifies that consciousness remains unchanged through all states, using the analogy of the sun always shining even when not visible from a particular location.
A woman seeks help unravelling apparent evidence that she is the body or localised awareness. Rupert explains that while experience requires a point of view, the knowing with which we know experience is not limited to that localisation.
A woman describes alternating between being and experience, seeking guidance on integration. Rupert encourages finding the right balance for one’s life circumstances while ensuring activities progressively lose their veiling power.
A woman describes feeling liberated through non-dual understanding but questions an infinite regress in being aware of being aware. Rupert explains that consciousness’s self-knowledge is direct, like the sun illuminating itself, not in subject-object relationship.
A man asks whether awareness is changed by experiences. Rupert explains that while consciousness itself remains unchanged, the content of consciousness is enriched by each life’s experiences, like waves donating their energy back to the ocean.
A man seeks clarification about how duality is created. Rupert explains that the faculties of thought and perception create the appearance of subject-object relationship, though this mechanism remains while the belief in separation dissolves.