How Should We Handle Persistent Thoughts After Loss?

After losing my son, I’ve surrendered to God and found deep peace and love. However, persistent thoughts like ‘I should have done something’ keep returning like a mosquito. I’ve tried various approaches, including self-enquiry and surrender, but these intense recurrent thoughts continue. What would be the best approach for handling them? Rupert says: ‘I think that the best approach is no approach. I think it’s completely natural of your mind to be generating thoughts. “What if?” “If only . . .” And I wouldn’t fight it because then you have not only the “what if?” thoughts, which are distressing, but then you have your resistance to them, and then you have the failure of that resistance to have any effect on your thoughts. I would just consider it a completely natural phenomenon. Every mother and father in the world would be experiencing what you’re experiencing. I would simply let them be.’

From event 07 - 14 September, 2025 Seven-Day Retreat at Mandali, 7–14 September 2025 – ‘Meister Eckhart and the Love of God’

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