How Do I Heal from Spiritual Abuse Without Bypassing?

I experienced years of harm in a spiritual community where non-dual understanding was misused to justify abuse. What’s the way to healing whilst keeping interest in being? Rupert says: ‘From an absolute point of view, there’s nothing to be healed. If you really understand that and feel that, that is the ultimate healing. But just be careful that you don’t use that as a bypass to address any healing that you need to do on a relative level. The ultimate healing is to go to your being and to really understand experientially that your being has never been violated, nor could it ever be violated. Nothing that takes place in a movie damages the screen. You realise, “I am free. Nothing, nobody touched me. Nobody violated me.” If by “me” you mean your being. Don’t do a spiritual bypass and say, “Oh, who is it that really?” That would be a wrong use of the non-dual understanding, because sometimes this understanding does give us a kind of loving obligation to stand up for what’s right. You have to feel in your heart, where is your response coming from? Go back to your being, see that your being has not been hurt, it has not been violated, and it has no desire to retaliate. And then when you are established in that, then respond to the situation.’

From event 30 August - 06 September, 2025 Seven-Day Retreat at Mandali, 30 August–6 September 2025

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