Processing Grief Through Understanding

"My mother recently died, and instead of grief, I feel extraordinary relief. Is this wrong, and how does understanding relate to grief? Rupert says: ‘Relief after a death, especially after long illness or when someone has been suffering, is completely natural and not wrong. This relief might be for them, for yourself, or both. Understanding doesn’t eliminate human emotions but changes our relationship with them. Grief may come in waves or not at all – there’s no correct way to grieve. The relief you feel might be the recognition that your mother’s essential being was never born and cannot die. It might be freedom from the weight of anticipating loss. Whatever you feel is valid. Don’t judge your response against expectations. Let yourself feel what arises naturally, whether relief, grief, or nothing at all.’"

From event 05 - 12 October, 2025 Seven-Day Retreat at Garrison Institute, 5–12 October 2025

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