The Question Behind the Question

Rain Meditation

A woman asks about God and questions how she can understand what prayer truly is. Rupert replies that he mentions prayer to send a subliminal message to those brought up in the Western tradition. Prayer, he explains, is just the name the Western tradition gives to what is called meditation in the East.

A man having difficulties in intimate relationships expresses shame about sharing his experiences. Rupert recommends the man keep attending his retreats, assuring him that the friends there will take care of it.

A man expresses his gratitude to everyone for being so hospitable to his young daughters, who came with him and his wife to the retreat, and asks about sharing non-dual understanding with his children. Rupert replies that it’s best to wait until they begin to show interest on their own. He recommends meeting them wherever they are in their curiosity and understanding.

A woman versed in the Zen tradition expresses her gratitude for the retreat, sharing her experience of feeling the love and joy of God.

A man shares his experience of chronic pain and asks if there is anyone among them who is knowledgeable about body mechanics and healing that could help him.

A man expresses his gratitude to everyone by reading his poem about grace.

A woman discusses her struggle with boredom. Rupert suggests the Tantric approach to her. Boredom, he explains, is a mildly uncomfortable feeling, a residue of seeking fulfillment in objective experiences. He advises her, instead of fleeing from boredom, face it directly. What you are looking for is just behind the boredom.

A woman expresses her gratitude for the retreat’s vegan food.

A man enquires about Rupert’s method of answering questions. Rupert explains that he employs no special process; he attentively listens to the question and delves deeper, listening to the question behind the question. He highlights that questions often stem from deeper feelings that give rise to the question. In the responding part of the process, Rupert remains open and waits for the heartfelt answer to emerge.