Affectionate Detachment Versus Aloofness

When I recognise what I am, I feel detached from results but not aloof. However, if I work hard and don’t get expected results, I still feel bad. How does this work? Rupert says: ‘Detached, but not aloof. Aloof is a position of separation accompanied by a feeling of superiority. Awareness is detached from the content of experience, but at the same time, one with it in the same way that a screen is detached from the content of the movie. It’s affectionate detachment. The affection suggests the closeness, the detachment suggests the freedom. You are doing the activity in order to be fulfilled. But if the activity you’re engaging in comes from a feeling of sufficiency, of fullness, of wholeness, of peace, you feel fulfilled. And then you engage in the activity. Your being is always fulfilled. Causeless joy is the nature of being.’

From event 30 August - 06 September, 2025 Seven-Day Retreat at Mandali, 30 August–6 September 2025

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