Attraction from Fullness, Not Neediness

"If I fall in love with being, I’m falling in love with myself. And my thinking is, if I fall in love with being, maybe someone will come along and fall in love with me. Rupert says: ‘That’s a possible consequence, but it shouldn’t be your motive – being is not a fool. You have to do it for the right reason, which is for no reason. A needy man is not very attractive. No one wants to be with someone who’s needy, because it’s not possible for a person to fulfil another person’s longing for love. If anyone enters a relationship for the purpose of fulfilling their need, for the first few months or years the other person can fulfil it, but sooner or later they’ll start behaving in a way that doesn’t conform. The best premise to enter a relationship from is just being established, self-sufficient, peaceful, full of love. Then you want a friend to share that with, but not to fulfil any existential longing. What is deeply attractive in a person is their presence – just the sharing of being.’"

From event 21 - 28 November, 2025 Seven-Day Retreat at The Vedanta, 21–28 November 2025

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