Relationship as the Testing Ground

How does one deal with the subtleties of relationship as the “ironing board” of this understanding? Rupert says: ‘You want your life in general but your relationship in particular to be consistent with and an expression of the understanding we share here. The more deeply you go into this understanding, the more sensitive you become. It’s not just the big creases that you want to iron out – you get very fussy about the little creases. You want your relationship to be the primary vessel, the first form of this understanding in your life. And when you notice an old habit in you that is not an expression of this understanding, that is an old habit of egoic withdrawal or egoic reactivity or defensiveness, they are intolerable to you. If you do anything to hurt each other, it causes you this pain in your heart. If you have a relationship with someone that shares this understanding, it’s not only one of the main ways that you celebrate this understanding and share it, but also it becomes a magnifying glass for any little residual egoic tendencies. Don’t just see these patterns, but share them with each other – explore them and share them with each other. Be vulnerable with each other.’

From event 05 - 12 April, 2025 Seven-Day Retreat at Mandali, 5–12 April 2025

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