Preferences and Understanding

When living from the understanding, how can one reconcile having preferences with loving everything and everyone? Rupert says: ‘It’s fine to have preferences. It’s true that awareness itself doesn’t have any preferences – awareness is like the space of this room, it doesn’t prefer some of us rather than others. But the mind has preferences, and rightly so. It’s legitimate for the mind to have preferences. Ideally, you want your mind’s preferences to rise on behalf of awareness. You want to make choices in your life that are consistent with your understanding of your true nature. Try to make sure that the choices you make arise in service of the qualities that are inherent in awareness, rather than your preferences arising on behalf of an ego. The question is not whether or not you have preferences – it’s fine to have preferences. The question is on whose behalf do they arise?’

From event 05 - 12 April, 2025 Seven-Day Retreat at Mandali, 5–12 April 2025

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